When people walk from the marriage, it's over; they don't belong to you. Sad fokks, but not as sad as actual or intended murder.

Sorry, I don't agree. Marriage isn't a casual agreement to meet for lunch if both parties are free. Besides which, the affair started before she left.

If you play with fire, expect to get burnt.

Of course, if he'd had one, HM wouldn't have to give it to him...

Mine's the straight one.

burnt, maybe but not put to death!

He didn't say it was casual he said when its over they don't belong to you

which is of course true

and either way murdering the lover seems the wrong thing to do

surly murdering the wife for cheating would be the more appropriate thought still wrong course of action

and these days marriage is pretty casual its so easy to get a divorce these days the only point in marriage is to secure a widows pention and benifits should your partner die. Its not really a show of commitment any more

Jeez Matt, there are more mature ways of handling the problem. There's no excuse for this.

When I saw the headline I assumed that someone had just released a social networking site similar to Friends Reunited. I found this unbelievable as I assumed that when ITV purchased FR they killed it there and then.

Then I read on.

There are some that would argue that living in Tiverton is some kind of death sentence on its own. But I wouldn't.

In keeping with the Friends Reunited/ITV angle, my coat is showing crappy drama and re-runs of once-upon-a-time decent gameshows from the 1980s.

Shoulda killed em both with old SCO Unix CD's with sharpened edges.

Would have got the full support of the El Reg crowd for that one.

quote: "these days marriage is pretty casual"

wtf?

"Hey babe, fancy coming back to mine tonight for a quick marriage ceremony? How do you like your divorce papers served in the morning....?"

*sigh

It can be in Iran, where short term marriages to ladies of negotiable affection are necessary for such commercial liasons to be legal, since *extra-marital* sex is banned.

"and either way murdering the lover seems the wrong thing to do"

Erm, only SEEMS?!

Is this supposed to equate to "if you leave your husband, expect him to murder your lover"....?

And here was me thinking that because Murder is illegal and pretty damn morally reprehensible, that it's not actually ever to be "expected" from rational grownups...

Surely it's more like "murder someone, expect to go to jail"....?

I pity this sad man for not being able to let go... but I still want him put away, thanks.

I never understand why people "get in touch" after 30 years. You've both led different lives, you'll probably be very different people. Maybe it's a way of trying to hang onto the past? But the past IS the past - you have to leave it there. Wistfully wishing you'd made different decisions to what you did is one thing, but it makes about as much sense as regretting getting last weeks lottery numbers completely wrong.

Your wifie running off with someone else doesn't justify homicide. That said, if she's decided to leave and will claim 60 percent of your worldly possessions, insist you sell your home, your car and all the rest of it to pay for her leaving and setting up with some new chap (who she won't marry, so you keep paying) then you cannot really be surprised if you're looking a bit askance. She just decides after years that she fancies a change, and you can darn well pay for her new life, whilst moving into a rented shoebox yourself, she takes up with her new blokie on 3 incomes in a big pad and hassles your for cash.

TBH, I think it'd feel like doing much the same myself. I'm not saying it'd do it, but i'd certainly enjoy a few lurid daydreams!

It just occurred to me - I hope Matt tells anyone he is chatting up that he approves of murder as a response to unfaithfulness.

If he is himself unfaithful will he live up to his standards and commit suicide?

I wonder if he would find reason to think his own unfaithfulness was justified and his wife/girlfriend/boyfriend whatever should understand?

Silly thoughts.

Let's not forget that some peeps in Sardina seem to have a fetish for knives.

(Mind you, that could be the rumor-market, but even here we're damned careful around people with a history of collecting knives in general. I only collect high-quality ones. *pats his Wenger steel Swiss Army*)

Mine's the one with a Woodsman's Pal hanging from it.

"I never understand why people "get in touch" after 30 years. You've both led different lives, you'll probably be very different people."

Well, I had a live-in girlfriend 20ish years ago who had a very unusual level of talent with her tongue that helped the relationship last some 4 years. Fortunately, I didn't marry her.

To those of you whose mind dwells in the gutter, she, um, spoke very pleasantly. That's obviously what I meant.

Death is the only answer. Bring back hanging, six of the best and buggery... with one small provision.

If I'm the one that gets caught, my wife should remember that not just life, but testicles, are sacred..

I don't understand these folk. Their partner has an affair and they go after the person they have the affair with. Its not the third person thats causing the problem, its the unfaithful partner.

If your partner is running off to be unfaithful (and i didn't read anything in the article that said anything about her running off pre-divorce or being a golddigger - thats only the previous commentators preconceptions), then something is wrong with your relationship. Full stop, capital letter.

People who are happy in their marriage, don't leave and don't mess around. If someone leave's then usually there is a BIG problem in the marriage. I think its pretty obvious that this guy has some serious mental problems (regular people dont go halfway across Europe to murder people!), so i think i can see where the problem lay and why the women wanted to get away.

I feel sorry for her and for the poor bugger that got stabbed. I do NOT feel sympathy for Mr Murderer!

Oh *there* it is: "...Matta, from Cagliari, Sardinia..."

@Matt. Quote "If you play with fire, expect to get burnt."

If you're saying don't piss off the Mafia, you might have a point. But as you appear to be sdaying that infidelity should be punishable by murder, I suggest you fuck of to Iran where your mysoginist medievalism will be welcome.

Anyone know if he got deported first, or is he yet another statistic in the "UK prisons over crowded" story?